Jos 5:9a, 10-12/2 Cor 5:17-21/Lk 15:1-3, 11-32
Today’s readings are about reconciliation. It seems to be a part of life to have misunderstandings, resentments, and various kinds of conflict even when trying to lead a Christian life. There are also people who rub us the wrong way. They have a different world view, and it is difficult to find common ground. Sometimes, there’s one person who drives everyone crazy, who interrupts, who offers unrealistic suggestions, or who is always negative about other people and ideas.
This situation is a challenge when the person we have a problem with is a family member, coworker, a boss, or another parishioner. We may have heard, “See how those Christians love one another.” But human beings clash over both real and imagined circumstances. How can we bring our broken or breaking relationship back together?
It isn’t always the best idea to confront the other person. That person may not know about our negative feelings. Determine if a resolution requires an honest conversation. Misunderstandings are uncovered through conversation. Rationale can be clarified and consensus can develop. But will discussion help with something like a personality conflict? It may not be realistic to think the person is going to change. We can only change our own behavior. Conflict is often best handled with kindness and a willingness to listen to the other’s story.
One of the things I have to guard against is dismissing people too quickly when I am in a hurry to do something else, or I am feeling stressed. I am highly task-oriented, so I don’t always want to chat; I want to get the work done. But ministry is about relationships. The “task” is making connections and building the Body of Christ.
